Sad, but true: for many people (especially women who are over 25 years old) meet with the entire family at dinner Christmas Eve It is more a cause of annoyance than happiness.
Just imagine that the aunt who only comes to the country for these dates will be present and do the same questions of all the years (When will the boyfriend? or When do you plan to finish university?) is reason enough to classify the event as a nightmare. We understand you, believe us!
That’s why for this year to be less traumatic than the previous ones, we share seven tips that will help you cope with the comments and questions uncomfortable that usually arise at family Christmas gatherings.
1. Get ahead of the questions
If you have many years with your boyfriend and have not yet gotten married, it is expected that the typical question will arise: When will the wedding?
Before that arrives momenttell your family that you and your partner are living your relationship without rushing because you take the relationship very seriously. marriage and they want to take that step when they feel ready.
Using phrases like “Everything at your disposal” time” or “Everything comes when it has to come” will convince them that they should not pressure you or question you about the issue.
2. Don’t say anything
When you are asked an out of place question, stare at the person with a serious face for a few seconds. Don’t answer her, just look at her: that will make her understand that her comment was not well received and will surely make you feel sufficiently uncomfortable like not to do more questions of that type.
3. Change the issue
An option that can help you if the previous technique does not work is to quickly change the issue when they “throw” you the question uncomfortable. Ignore that person and deflect conversation so that he realizes that you don’t want to answer. If he insists, you also insist on avoiding the issue.
4. Find an ally
Before dinner, talk to a familiar with the one you have trust or a good relationship. Tell him what topics you don’t like to be mentioned and ask him to rescue you if they come up during the meeting. familiar.
5. Control your consumption of alcohol
have a certain degree of alcohol on your system can cause reactions in an upset or aggressive manner, something you surely wouldn’t do when sober. After all, you don’t want to be the protagonist of an embarrassing scene in the middle of Christmas Eveso it’s best not to overdo the drinks.
6. Set boundaries
Many times the family is not aware of how annoying certain comments or questions. That is why you must make it clear, kindly and diplomacythat there are topics that you would prefer not to be touched on so that you can enjoy dinner in harmony. You don’t have to tolerate situations uncomfortable just because it’s about you family.
7. No reactions at provocations
In your attempt to establish boundariessomeone may respond with a comment type: “With that character, no wonder you can’t find a partner.” Stay calm! Breathe and try to ignore the comment. Keep in mind never to laugh at a “joke” like this, because by reacting with humor you give the other person the freedom to continue.
